In Netherlands, same-sex marriages are nothing new

AMSTERDAM, Netherlands – Three years after Amsterdam’s mayor officiated at the Netherlandsfirst gay wedding, the gay marriage rate is falling, the first divorces are being registered and the issue has disappeared from the political agenda.

“Gay Capital of Europe”

“Amsterdam is not only one of the most beautiful cities in the world with a wonderful cultural history and liveliness, it is also known to many Dutch and foreign visitors as the Gay Capital of Europe. Two of the reasons that make this city so attractive to gay visitors are that most people in Amsterdam speak English very well and that they have a relaxed and tolerant attitude towards different lifestyles. “Live and let live” is one of Amsterdams favourite sayings. Amsterdam has more than a hundred gay bars, discos, saunas, bookshops, video stores, restaurants and hotels, ranging from very classic to trendy.”
Gay Capital of Europe, Amsterdam.nl (the city’s official web site)

While the United States is engaged in debate on a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage, Canadians are discussing a federal law to legalize it and many European countries are adopting civil unions for gay couples.

But in the Netherlands, nobody talks about the issue anymore.

“It’s really become less of something that you need to explain,” said Anne-Marie Thus, who in 2001 married Helene Faasen. “We’re totally ordinary. We take our children to preschool every day. People know they don’t have to be afraid of us.”

Around the world, countries are coming to terms with how to treat same-sex couples – and the trend in many is toward liberalizing laws.


In Denmark, civil unions with the same rights as marriage have been around since 1989, and other Nordic countries followed suit in the 1990s.

The Dutch were the first to eliminate any distinction between gay and straight, striking all references to gender in the marriage laws. Belgium soon did the same.

Canada jumped to the forefront of gay rights in North America in June when it announced plans to legalize same-sex marriages. Many same-sex couples streamed north to marry in Ottawa and British Columbia after courts in those provinces authorized weddings.

In most of Africa, homosexuality is illegal. But in South Africa, gay rights were enshrined in the post-apartheid constitution and groups are lobbying for the right to marry.

In Japan, homosexuality is no longer considered a mental illness, but many gays still feel pressure to go through a sham heterosexual marriage. Japan is more progressive than most of Asia.

Strongly Roman Catholic countries such as Spain and Italy refuse to recognize gay couples, following the Vatican’s abhorrence of homosexuality. But there are important exceptions.

In Portugal, and in Spain’s Navarra and Basque regions, gay couples who live together long enough receive the same benefits as heterosexuals under common law unions. In Argentina’s capital, Buenos Aires, gay couples can register for a civil union.

France and Germany have civil union laws, and Britain is in the process of adopting them.

The Dutch have watched the hoopla in the United States with some bemusement. Amsterdam Mayor Job Cohen, who married six couples at the stroke of midnight when the Dutch law took effect, sent a note of support to San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom, who set off a rush to California when he officiated same-sex ceremonies.

In contrast to Amsterdam’s boisterous gay clubs and the spring rite of the Gay Pride parade through its famed canals, Faasen and Thus, the Dutch lesbian couple, live a quiet life in a neat apartment on the city’s outskirts. They hardly seem like revolutionaries, or even trendsetters.

Faasen is a notary and Thus works part time in a home for the elderly. The couple have a 3-1/2-year-old son, Nathan, and 2-year-old daughter, Myrthle. Faasen adopted the two, who are Thus’ biological children.

Their reasons for marrying were prosaic.

“With marriage, you have a whole range of legal issues settled right in one go,” Faasen said, scooping up Myrthle. “Child care, life insurance, health insurance, pension, inheritance. Otherwise you’re left taking care of those things bit by bit, where it’s possible.”

In typical Dutch fashion, the marriage law was debated for years before it was finally enacted without fanfare. Government statistics show 2,400 same-sex marriages took place in its first nine months, compared with 1,500 last year.

Marten van Mourik, a law professor at the Catholic University of Nijmegen, said the declining rate of same-sex unions vindicated his opposition to the change in the law and shows it was unnecessary since civil unions were already legal.

“You don’t change an institution with such a long history from one day to the next just to satisfy the whim of one group of people,” he said. “Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman intended to produce children.”

But he concedes there is no support for reversing the law, even though the government is now led by the Christian Democrats, which opposed the legislation.

Henk Krol, editor of the magazine Gay Krant, argues civil unions are an intermediate stage on the way to full rights for gays, which he said are inevitable.

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