Young female writer touts biblical case for chastity

Author boosts an unfashionable virtue

It’s unfashionable and risks ridicule, and it’s tough to maintain in the face of powerful cultural pressures.

But chastity remains a vital biblical virtue, argues Lauren F. Winner in her candid, commonsensical 21st-century manifesto, “Real Sex: The Naked Truth About Chastity” (Brazos Press).

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Winner admits that she, like many young women today, indulged in premarital relations but gradually comprehended their sinfulness after the Christian conversion depicted in her winsome memoir, “Girl Meets God,” published in 2002.

She salutes new husband Griff, “who had the foolhardy temerity” to date and then marry a woman who was writing a book about chastity.

Chastity involves everything from faithfulness in marriage to avoidance of pornography, but Winner’s focus is premarital sex. (Chastity isn’t the same as celibacy, abstention from sex as part of religious vocations and vows.)

Despite liberal Christians’ attempts to define it away, Winner says limiting sex to marriage is an essential aspect of biblical teaching (but doesn’t explore the same-sex marriage dispute).

“You shall not commit adultery” is more explicit, but Winner believes the premarital ban is also assumed throughout Scripture, beginning with Genesis and with Adam and Eve as sexual partners.

In 55 passages, the New Testament denounces “porneia,” the Greek word for sexual immorality whose meaning varies in context. It’s applied specifically to premarital sex in the Apostle Paul’s admonition to unmarried Christians: “If they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:9).

“If the only two options are marriage or smoldering with desire, it follows that sex outside of marriage is not an option,” Winner reasons. “According to Paul, this sin is no minor peccadillo.” Christianity was united on this until the “new morality” of the 1960s.

Dating do’s and don’ts to maintain chastity are difficult to define. Lauren and Griff followed a rule suggested by a university chaplain in their town, Charlottesville, Va.: Do in private only what you’re comfortable doing in public settings.

Winner says the culture spreads “four powerful lies” that accompanied the past half-century’s moral individualism and promiscuity: “Sex can be wholly separated from procreation.”

Yes, reliable birth control means we can usually disconnect sex from childmaking but this is only narrowly, “technologically” true, she says. Morally and religiously, sex has three purposes: to unite the couple in love, to produce children and to mirror “the radical fidelity and intimacy” between God and the church.

(Disagreeing with papal teaching, she believes “the whole of a married couple’s sex life needs to be open to procreation” but not each sexual act.)

Winner insists she’s no prude but the commercial marketplace promotes “a culture of immodesty” that Christians must counteract. She says modest attire remains an option in stores that cater to the rich, while lower-price stores that most shoppers rely upon promote sexually enticing garb, even for young girls.

“Our clothes tell stories” about ourselves, she advises. There’s power in deciding, “I am more than a sex object designed for your passing entertainment.”

American consumer culture emphasizes novel experiences and makes sex little more than diversion or adventure. That undercuts the attractiveness of stable marital relationships free of the thrill of danger. But don’t be misled by romantic fiction, Winner counsels. “Ordinary” sex is meaningful — and fun.

“You shouldn’t marry for sex,” she says.

Promotion of sex before marriage merges with pressures to delay marrying to fulfill career goals or make supposedly mature decisions about a mate. Winner thinks that’s usually a mistake and favors early marriage over artificial postponement.

Christian churches sometimes convey their own “lies,” she complains. Among them: Sinful sex always makes you feel bad. Women lack libidos. Bodily needs are unimportant.

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Associated Press, via The Daily Camera, USA
Apr. 2, 2005
Richard N. Ostling
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